Are Wireless bed wetting alarms worth the money?
Parents want to do the right thing for their children, so there is a natural temptation to purchase an expensive bed wetting alarm rather than a cheaper one. However that would be an unnecessary expense. The best alarms are often the least expensive!
- If you’ve tried a bed wetting alarm already and found that it didn’t wake the child, read this about why it didn’t work
- Alarms are not a good idea for children under age 6, they are scary!
- Bed wetters over age 8 need much more than the alarm, to overcome bed wetting
I’ve tried all of them, and found that the alarms with various sounds are counter-productive, the alarm is a ‘pavlovian’ device. If you change the sound you’ve wasted your time. The sound should be annoying to succeed as an aversion therapy device.
If you were to spend $150 on a bed wetting alarm and $2 daily for pullups, you’d be money ahead to hire me and you’d be sure of success.
Before you try or buy any buzzer, test his reactions. Use an alarm clock set for 11pm and see if he hears it. If he or she doesn’t, that’s when you need a bed wetting Coach.
How to use the Buzzer:
The bed wetting alarm may cause panic or confusion at first, and this will pass in a day or two.
- The first step is that the child doesn’t hear the alarm.
- The second step is that he hears it and wakes the parent
- The third step is when the child wakes before the alarm, a BB or Beating the Buzzer.
- The fourth step is when the child decides when awake, or asleep, to hold it and sleep through the night.
It is very important to continue the process even after dryness, for some time, to establish the benefits fully and prevent future recurrence of the bedwetting.
Common first-night reactions:
Waking three or more times: Many children go to bed excited and wet three or more times. This will usually go to once or twice a night in a day or two.
Anger and confusion: The buzzer is deliberately piercing and annoying. The child has often before been awake and can’t bother to get up; the child will soon want to avoid the buzzer by beating it to get up first.
Buzzer fell off: That may happen but it’s more likely that the child in confusion disconnected it.
Most common reasons for a lack of progress:
He’s frustrated ( or Mom is ):
This is worth doing, and always works. Use a reward occasionally for trying hard, but not for being dry. Say ‘if you want to be dry, this is what you have to do.’ Never communicate any frustration or negativity to the child. A basic cause is anxiety, which can be caused by parent’s frustration.
Maintenance and Phasing Out
Once the child is dry at night for two weeks, slowly taper off the alarm use and bed time practice over another month. Use the alarm every second night for two weeks, then every third night for a few weeks and maintain the “practice” through this time. Then celebrate!
The bed wetting was fixed, but came back again. This happens rarely, usually because the process was ended too quickly. This is very counter-productive; the child will be frustrated and probably angry. Every time Mom tries something to help, it reinforces the child’s belief that “Mom can’t help me, Doctor can’t help me…”
Ask him or her to see my videos on Youtube for suggestions.